My Sister Has Breast Cancer Do You Think That Its Ok To Post Pone The Wedding?
my brother get married in three months but my sister has just found ou tshe has breast cancer we ask him to post pone till she finish kemo but bride seem to be angry
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October 2nd, 2009 at 10:53 pm
i think its most definately a fair call under the circumstances, i can understand how the bride must feel being so close and having everything booked but if your sister wont be able to make it for some reason i think it would be a nice gesture..
or maybe have you tried talking to your sister, maybe the happy time will help her forget everything for the day… it is a time for celebration..
maybe try talking to your sister and seeing how she feels and then talking to your brother… good luck!!
October 3rd, 2009 at 3:04 am
Well, first let me wish your sister the best with her treatment.
That being said, your brother should go on with his wedding. During this trying time your family will need something happy to celebrate. We just lost a dear aunt to breast cancer at age 53 and she would have been so mad at us if anyone would have put off a family event because of her. She loved watching the family grow-be it through weddings or children and she relished those times before she died.
If it is her hair falling out and how she will be feeling that is understandable, but there are some fabulous wigs out and there are spas that specialize in pampering treatments. It would be great for her to get in a support group (the whole family actually) and prepare to fight this.
This is a time to stand up and fight-not a time to feel sorry for herself. I understand all the concerns, but she needs to dig deep within herself and find strength she never knew she had.
Good luck to all.
October 3rd, 2009 at 9:21 am
Life is more important than a wedding. If the treatment isn’t started right away then there might not be any wedding in the future. Its a smart Idea to postpone till everything is ok for all parties involved.
October 3rd, 2009 at 9:58 am
Does your sister want to postpone the wedding? She is the one who is going thru the hard time…maybe she just wants everyone to proceed as normal? Try to sit down as a family and talk it all out.
I would say its probably getting to the point where it is REALLY hard to postpone a wedding if you are down to only 3 months left. If the bride wants to be selfish about it all…then maybe your brother will open his eyes to who he is marrying too.
October 3rd, 2009 at 2:25 pm
Wow, I’m sorry to hear that. It sounds like this should be up to your sister, your brother and his soon to be wife.
October 3rd, 2009 at 5:50 pm
If she has to start chemo before the wedding, schedule the ceremony for the day before her next chemo session. That way she can attend and be lucid and pain-free. Or change the date of that one chemotherapy session if the doctor’s will allow it.
As to the bride being upset, wouldn’t you be? Your special day planned, the one day that’s all about you. Then suddenly it becomes about someone else, another woman at that. But because it’s cancer, you aren’t even supposed to get angry.
How does your sister feell? Changing her routine, making special allowances may actually make her feel worse. Normality might be just what the doctor ordered.
October 3rd, 2009 at 10:31 pm
I think the wedding should go on so your sister can see the wedding forbiding anything goes wrong..my prayers are w/ you
October 4th, 2009 at 5:07 am
I’m terribly sorry to hear about what your sister is going though. My best friend’s dad had liver disease and she put off her wedding for 3 years while he was in an out of hospitals. He eventually passed and was never able to see her wedding. They ended up getting married at the JOP and never had a formal reception. My advise to you is to let the wedding go on as planned. I hope your sister recovers.
October 4th, 2009 at 8:34 am
Yeah the bride might be a little annoyed……Well you can think about it 2 ways…….you do it when originally scheduled so she can be there or you take the chance of something happening and she not being there…….unless you positively know that she will be able to be there after the kemo…..then if it was me i would postpone. But that’s just me im a softey at things like that.
October 4th, 2009 at 12:36 pm
My deepest sympathy to your sister with the cancer. I hope she kicks its butt and makes a full remission!!
Remember the planning that goes into a wedding. Venues are booked a year in advance. Invitations are printed and mailed months before the event. Not to mention caterers, florists and all the other things. Deposits and more would be at stake. Out of town guests might lose non-refundable tickets.
I understand your families pain and unease with your sister being sick, but maybe having the wedding will keep your sisters spirits up.
Listen to both sides before making any judgement.
Good Luck!
October 4th, 2009 at 3:34 pm
tell the bride to shove it. shes arrogant and cant be caring towards the members of the family that she is becoming a part of. if i was the groom i would do some serious thinking about the sucubus im marrieing.
October 4th, 2009 at 8:06 pm
I’m sorry to hear that, it must be devastating for you and your family, I hope she recovers.
I think the your brother and his fiance need to talk to your sister.
I don’t think there is any harm in having the wedding. It has probably been planned for so long and I don’t want to sound terrible but if they post pone it they will lose a lot of money they probably can’t afford to lose and will have to make up for it later.
Having the wedding still doesn’t mean they don’t care. They can still be there for her through her treatment. A wedding is only one day and I’m sure it would take your sister’s mind off it and give her a chance to enjoy herself for a day.
Your brother should just tell your sister he is still most definitely there for her through this difficult time and he would still love for her to go to the wedding but he completely understand if she can’t or doesn’t want to.