How Do I Train Myself To Not Let Physical Beauty Of Women Cloud My Judgment?
I want to get to know a girl for who she is and not let her do as she pleases just because she is beautiful.
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December 30th, 2009 at 7:21 am
The most basic skill you need is learning to say “no.” It doesn’t have to be a flat, blunt “no” either; just a tactful refusal to do what she wants you to do, if you don’t want to do it. It takes courage to be pragmatic when others aren’t, but you just need to keep reminding yourself this: if I say “no” and she’s fine with it, then I’ll know a) she respects how I feel (which reflects on her personality), and b) it’s not a relationship that has any conditions to it.
Also, when talking to a girl, focus on what you would normally focus on during a conversation with, say, one of your guy friends. Make eye contact and ask them basic questions (e.g. what’s up), express yourself (but, you know, don’t say anything inappropriate), girls are humans too. It’s intimidating and takes a lot of practice, yet the more you get, the more confident in yourself you will be; girls have a subconscious attraction to confidence, it’s a masculine trait that makes them feel protected and trusting towards you. You can practice on girls you aren’t immensely attracted to, so that you’ll get a better feel for it and be more apt when talking to girls you really are interested in.
Hope this helps =)
December 30th, 2009 at 12:06 pm
I’m not sure how old you are but, in time, you’ll eventually start to see women for there personality rather then looks. That’s without saying that that’s how most relationships start. After all, how many times have you ever seen a man approach a women he saw for the first time because of her personality? Physical appearance is what hooks men first and for most (Unless it’s the internet or such).
Sure a women may look beautiful at first but, after getting to know her, that could change. Now I’m not saying every beautiful women has an awful personality I’m just giving an example. That’s what I’ve personally experienced. Personality is what really makes a women attractive/unattractive.
You can also just resist the urge to do anything until after you get to know her.
December 30th, 2009 at 12:12 pm
The coy answer is: self-control. Women are distracting to every heterosexual man. Some men do a better job of it than others, and you’ll quickly learn that this never changes no matter how old you get.
December 30th, 2009 at 5:05 pm
Have a relationship with one. Better yet, marry one. You’ll soon find she’s not all that great just because she’s got luck in beauty department.
December 30th, 2009 at 9:54 pm
Aim to see the personality of the woman not what your eyes alone can pick up.